Narcissism and ADHD / “addicted to people” :)!!

People with ADHD are often in relationships with people who have narcissistic personality structures. This can be explained quite logically through the dopamine system, which is undersupplied in people with ADHD. During a so called lovebombing phase (the initial phase to get you into a relationship), your brain experiences an absolute compensation effect and feels much better with so much dopamine.

As a result, we naturally become dependent more quickly. It has been scientifically proven that people with ADHD develop substance addictions earlier and more frequently than neurotypical individuals and also have a harder time getting out of them. Likewise, people with ADHD can be hindered by their own empathy and flexibility, as well as by the fact that they are highly susceptible to gaslighting, since they have heard their whole lives that they are not doing this right or that right, which naturally makes them easier to manipulate.

So when you are dating :), it is best to remember that if you find yourself drifting deeply into feelings of infatuation, you might want to take a closer look at the situation. Personally, “I never want to be addicted to a person again”, because when you have to end the relationship to protect yourself, it feels like a miserable withdrawal.

The problem is that when they enter our lives, we need to recognize them and, above all, remove them from our lives again.