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Yeah, I was researching it a bit deeper last couple of weeks and it’s a power dynamic thing.. Most NDs are empaths by nature which is nurturing to narcissists, but drains the energy out of NDs. Only if you know the dynamic and about narcissism, you can steer and intervene longterm. But it’s hard lessons to go through, as I had multiple narcs at work and in relationships 😑
Lmao reading this right as my boyfriend told me he was diagnosed with NPD is crazy 😭 I guess it’s more common than I thought aswell
Narcissism and ADHD / “addicted to people” :)!!
People with ADHD are often in relationships with people who have narcissistic personality structures. This can be explained quite logically through the dopamine system, which is undersupplied in people with ADHD. During a so called lovebombing phase (the initial phase to get you into a relationship), your brain experiences an absolute compensation effect and feels much better with so much dopamine.
As a result, we naturally become dependent more quickly. It has been scientifically proven that people with ADHD develop substance addictions earlier and more frequently than neurotypical individuals and also have a harder time getting out of them. Likewise, people with ADHD can be hindered by their own empathy and flexibility, as well as by the fact that they are highly susceptible to gaslighting, since they have heard their whole lives that they are not doing this right or that right, which naturally makes them easier to manipulate.
So when you are dating :), it is best to remember that if you find yourself drifting deeply into feelings of infatuation, you might want to take a closer look at the situation. Personally, “I never want to be addicted to a person again”, because when you have to end the relationship to protect yourself, it feels like a miserable withdrawal.
The problem is that when they enter our lives, we need to recognize them and, above all, remove them from our lives again.
Well, I think you both described it very well, Lisa and Isabell. Many of my clients with high sensitivity and giftedness describe it similar. Narcissistic people have the Skill to be completely honest with their attention in the first step. They let you feel like you are something special for them. I also had that feeling already with female narcissistic people/partners. It worked quite well. But this turns very fast after differences.
And, as you also already described, it needs some experience and inner work to realize that pattern, which feelings they trigger and learn to avoid it or handle it.
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